But, she has a great personality...

You're smart.... you're funny, you have a nice smile, and you have a great personality!

All great things, I suppose. But, generally when a woman hears these types of compliments it just says to us that "you're just not pretty". Sure, we have ok features, we have a nice smile, or nice eyes, but overall, we're just average.

I feel like maybe I'm ok with being average, and everyone has different tastes, but maybe, just maybe, someone, somewhere will think I'm beautiful, gorgeous, or even stunning. I'd love to be stunning one day, but, I'll settle for gorgeous, or beautiful.

The underlying problem, is that even if we are told that we are beautiful, stunning, pretty, gorgeous or absolutely drop dead gorgeous, we don't believe them. Nope, not one bit. We are so critical of our image, that when someone tells us that we may, in fact, be something more than how we see ourselves, we chalk it up to flattery, or flirting, and we never think twice about it. We don't, or won't, think that someone was genuinely trying to pay us a compliment, or that they did indeed think that we were gorgeous, and we go on criticizing ourselves and everything about ourselves until we just plain give up and settle for someone who thinks were average, but with a "nice personality", knowing all the while that they are gawking at every 19 year old with big tits that passes him by.

Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we let our own self loathing, and self image, eat away at was has always been a beautiful person, inside and out. If we could look deep within ourselves and find the one thing that makes us special or unique, and allow that part of us to shine, the confidence and the power that would come from that could inspire true happiness.